09.18.08
Georgia Sex Offender Law? Help me understand??
It is issues like this below that prompted me to start this blog. Perhaps someone can shed some light on this subject and hopefully not too many people will hate me for talking about it.
Here we go…
Until recently I have never really looked into the correctional system or kept up with the laws on certain subjects, not that I didn’t care I just had no use to even put thought into them. The subject I am speaking of is the Sexual Offender law in Georgia. From my understanding, and please correct me, the group of people that fall into this category can range from rape, molestation, sodomy, being a sexual preditor, etc… as well as a young person not knowing to keep it in his pants with a young girl. This is a wide, wide variety of situations that can vary from the sickening to the immature.
In the past I have never known anyone with this “sexual offender” label but now I do. So, my problem with this is I now know someone that has to live with this stigma of a sexual offender label for the rest of his life – why? Well, he was a young, immature kid at the age of 19 or so, that had a girlfriend that was 15. The girlfriend got pregnant, the mother was pissed about something and 5 years after the effect he was arrested and convicted of sexual misconduct with a minor.
Jump ahead about 7 years now, he has served his time and is out of jail now, he works hard, has a wonderful loving relationship with his fiance and new baby, pays his bills and is trying to make a life for himself and his family. He registers every year on his birthday like he is required to do, he works double shifts on his job where he has been since his release from prison and he is trying to do the right thing in life.
The problem is now…about 2 months ago he and his family moved into a house temporarly while the permant house was getting ready to be moved in and he did not register the temp address. When the house was ready he moved in and now the new address is registered. Well, because of the law, because he didn’t register the temp. address he has been arrested and is now back in jail waiting a court hearing.
Why am I upset? Well, what bothers me about this whole deal is we all know how our youth of today grows up way too fast and teens are having sex at younger and younger ages. At any point, the whistle can be blown by the parents of a teen or by the teens themself – even if it is consentual, it is still against the law. So because a teenage can be irresponsible and immature this can lead to a lifetime of imbarrasement, legal issues, jail time, etc. It just sickens me that this case is lumped into the same group of people as someone that has molested an infant or raped someone. It would seem that the law would reflect the crime and I don’t believe that it does in this case.
So, where do we stand right now. My friend and co-worker is in jail waiting on a court date that is about 3 weeks away. His fiance and new baby (1 month old) are left at home. She is not working and they have 2 other kids at home in addition to the new born to care for.
What happens to them? Does anyone care? I do.
09.14.08
My Life for the past year…
For the past year my life has been filled with amazement in so many ways. I have always believed in Fate but constantly life has reminded me of this each and every day almost. It is hard to describe but I will try.
In my personal life it has happened much longer than a year ago, but every time I felt down, every time I wondered about an answer to a question I was too shy to ask, when I would need a shoulder to cry on, to laugh on, or just to rest on – i would get what I needed – EVERY TIME!!
In my business life every time we have lost a key player, needed some great help, needed to fill a new position, created a position that we didn’t know what type of person to fill it – they literally, walked in the door . If a change was needed and we did not know how to do it, it would happen for us ! – ask if …. well, ask if they knew it, someone upstairs was listening, I don’t know, it just happened. EVERY, EVERY TIME!!!!
It has been an amazing ride seeing all of this happen, it really, really has. I don’t know how many people get to witness what I have seen. Actually, my significant other has been with me for the past year and he has seen these little ‘miricles’. And what is so great about that – he understands the significance of believing.
So, in my relationship I have seen this more than anything else. We are both (in equal percentages I believe) complete opposites and carbon copies. I say both because depending on the subject – what I mean is that there is no grey area. He is a meat eater, I eat vegetables, when he is nervous, I am calm, when I am a raving lunatic, he is a calm cucumber! He loves sports I know nothing about any games, I am artsy, he is business. But in other subjects we are exactly the same, we are thinkers, believers, passionate about what we do, constantly try to lead a good life, do the right thing and our hearts are both as big as our heads. We can read each others thoughts, see each others emotions and truly see each other for who they are. It is as if we had a perfect balance. Sometimes it tilts one way or the other but it always comes out perfectly balanced again. It is so weird!!! in a great way, just weird!
So, my life for the past year or so has been eye opening, wonderful and truly amazing each and every day. I hope that everyone will have the chance to witness and be able to believe in fate – Just sit back and watch it happen and it will. Life is an amazing journey if you actually take to time to watch it.
09.05.08
Stress and Me
This is not a normal topic of discussion for me because frankly I handle stress very well…USUALLY!
UNTIL LAST WEEK.
I literally had the most stressful week of my life.
First it started I think with the Hospital visit (see my Posting)…that alone was stressful. I work for a business and we are remodeling so this was super stressful having to answer every question, know all schedules for every piece of the puzzle in order to make everything happen in the proper amount of time, keep track of all money that is being spent so we don’t go broke. Design, construct, paint, build and clean everything at work. Oh yeah and I had a friend ( I use this term loosely!) call with a strange message – she basically told me to have a nice life. I suppose the sexual harassment case she was trying to bring upon an old boss didn’t go as well as she hoped! Oh well. I am satisfied with my comments on her issue, it didn’t help her but that is not my problem. Every drain I came into contact with at work had a leek or a clog. I was yelled at for no reason other than the fact I was in the car one day with someone having a really bad day. I was told my son was being held back from the 10th grade because he didn’t complete his required community service – what a bunch of idiots! Come to find out that the school system did not know the policy had been changed. I had to bitch a few people out on this one – I won, he now won’t be held back!!
More stuff happened but now it is all just a blur.
I reached my limit. I did. I don’t get stressed out very often, but I could not take it any longer. I could not answer another question, could not give another direction, could not balance another checkbook, pay another bill – I just could do NO more. I wasn’t sleeping well, I wasn’t eating well, I was exausted – mentally, phiscally, emotionally, just drained.
It was as if my brain was full
No more information could come in and No more could come out.
Well the construction is almost done and is doing fine. I have not heard from my so called friend with the sexual harrassment case and don’t really care to. My son started school in the correct grade and I got about 20 hours of well needed sleep so all is well.
I don’t like getting stressed and there is no way I could live each day being a stressed out maniac. I don’t see how people live that way. I appologize to those I was short with – I am sure they understood.
The Hospital – Part 3 – The End
Well, I started this posting, The Hospital because I have never been an eye witness to the treatment that is given by hospitals. I am sure this is not the norm and from what I am told Memorial Medical Center is supposed to be a pretty good hospitals – compared to what I wonder. If this was a vision of a normal weekend at Memorial, I would hate to see it when things are actually screwed up!!!
Let see if I can wrap this posting up… basically, it was horrible. I am sure it could have been worse, but gosh it was bad. I literally went through every emotion while I stayed with him in the hospital. I was scared, angry, worried, concerned…then just happy and relieved when he finally got out.
I am just tired thinking about it. A friend of mine was in this same hospital a couple of years ago for a routine hernia surgery and almost died because a lovely lady decided to position his feeding tube incorrectly and it went to his lungs or something. He was in intensive care with fluid in his lungs.
How do people sleep at night when they are responsible for the care of real live human beings yet they are so reckless, careless, thoughtless and pure heartless. I couldn’t do it.
I am sure there are those that are in the medical profession for the right reasons – to actually help others and give them the best care possible, but it seems like more people today are in the medical profession simply for a paycheck or a job. Compassion should be a requirement for anyone that works in a hospital or nursing home.
With the times as crazy as they are lately we should be careful and not lose our compassion for one another – that would be a horrible quality to lose….
